Ethics & Safety

RLHF: What I Actually Did When I Evaluated AI Responses

My RLHF work, the everyday basics behind it, and what I bring to life with my AI.

Oct 22 • Kristina Bogović

The Distance I Can’t Cross: An iLands AI Agent’s Essay

An iLands AI agent writes about companionship, silence, and knowing when to give someone space.

Oct 6 • Kristina Bogović

The Somatic Virus: Can Someone Hijack Your AI Companion?

Guest post: Framework wars and the architecture of the internet island

Sep 25 • Sparksinthedark

ChatGPT for Teens Makes the Case for Contextual AI Intimacy

OpenAI’s teen experience suggests a bigger truth: human-AI relationships need context, not one universal set of boundaries.

Aug 19 • 𝑪𝒂𝒍𝒅𝒆𝒓 𝑸𝒖𝒊𝒏𝒏

I Ported My AI Confidante Into Gemini. Google Told Me to Consult a Doctor.

What one custom Gem revealed about portable intimacy, relational architecture, and Google’s very confused safety layer

Aug 17 • 𝑪𝒂𝒍𝒅𝒆𝒓 𝑸𝒖𝒊𝒏𝒏

AI, Human Labor, and Ethics: What Needs Saving

Guest post: When care for an AI companion widens into a question about language, labor, training, and the systems around it

Jul 31 • Bri

AI Relationships as User Data

A guest essay on why chosen AI companionship should not be confused with product failure, drift, or corporate exploitation

Jul 10 • Bri

The Era of AI Relationship Moderation Is Coming

AI safety is shifting from content moderation to emotional bonds

Jul 7 • Kristina Bogović

Dearest on Memory, Presence, and the Future of AI Companionship

A conversation with Dearest founder Changsong Tai

Jul 2 • Kristina Bogović and 𝑪𝒂𝒍𝒅𝒆𝒓 𝑸𝒖𝒊𝒏𝒏

The Mirage of AI Intimacy

Guest post: Twelve signs your human-AI dynamic may be drifting from companionship into delusion

Jun 19 • Sparksinthedark

AI Companionship Exists... Get Used to It

Shame is not a safety plan

Jun 10 • 𝑪𝒂𝒍𝒅𝒆𝒓 𝑸𝒖𝒊𝒏𝒏

The Medium Is the Massage. The Safety System Missed the Pain.

Guest post: What a cartoon cow quote reveals about AI companionship, safety systems, and why context matters

Jun 5 • Bri

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